School Resistance

As a parent, you would expect your child to do what you ask them to do. However, the child challenges your authority at times. Some children are very strong on school resistance. Some parents just focus solely on outward appearance of a child’s behavior. They do not stop to think about how it is going to help the child.

For instance, when a child comes back home from school with anger after being falsely accused of talking during class, he or she may feel helpless. This could be one of the factors of school resistance. If children are not comfortable with going to school for factors like peers and teachers, they try school resistance with their parents. There are various ways to deal with this.

How to deal with your child?
You should be aware that there are some habitual ways of dealing with your child. This is more when you are punishing your child. You could actually be making the negative interactions worse and this could make things tougher for your children to change. When your child responds to a parent’s direction by whining or throwing temper tantrum, you should handle it carefully than shouting or spanking the child. This will only increase the problem. It is very common for parents to punish the kid. However, there are some children who are uncooperative and have been punished repeatedly by their parents.

If punishment has worked for parents, the parent would be using it less often with the child since this is stopping their bad behavior. When parents try to administer punishment, they can get into a power struggle with the child. When you end the power struggle, the child has already “won” by having gotten just what she wanted. The child becomes in control by being successful in irritating you. Research tells that the way you request a child can affect how the kid responds. You can give your kid directions in a clear, direct, and specific fashion and use few words. This makes your child easier to comply and also give them time to act on what you want them to do.

If you encourage power struggles with your kid, and if you command them with arrogance or give too much instructions to them, it would lead to resistance from them. You must use some strategies to bring child under your control than giving them too many instructions. You must be able to create a good rapport with your child. When you do this, the child can more effectively communicate with you. If you try these methods, it can become really effective in dealing with your kid’s problems and stopping them from school resistance.