Managing Child Temper

Child temper often takes the shape of tantrum. Especially children up to ten have the tendency to outburst just on the spot unable to hold control on their temper. And poor parents either face the consequence with embarrassment or start bashing up their kids right at the moment. To cope up with the situation few even accept the child’s demand. None of these ways can be recommended as suitable means to manage the child temper.

Causes for losing temper

  • Mostly children nag for certain things and they want those to be given to them right then. Once they are denied the outburst sometimes become gruesome. They might yell and cry at the top of their voice or destroy other things at home.
  • Many a time these children show their anger and agony in some other form. They might stop eating and doing their routine tasks.

The last weapon a child uses to get the thing done is start creating fuss over silly things. They express false pains, ailments and constantly tries to draw your attention towards their problems.

  • All of a sudden, you will find them yelling because of stomach ache. Initially you will think it to be true but after checkups when the doctors get no clue as to why the stomach is paining, you might realize that you had denied giving a particular toy a few hours back to your child.

Drawing your attention
The basic misconception about managing child temper is overlooking the actual reason behind such a behavior.

  • You always take the matter for granted because it is again another thing your child is pestering for. This is obviously the apparent cause. But something lies deep within which you ignore or never try to get into.
  • In fact, your kid needs your attention particularly at the moment when the little one lose his/her temper. It is only your caressing arms and pampering words that can stop them from the fit of temper.

Problems in communication
The lack of direct communication sometimes creates a gap where parents don’t understand what their kid really wants. This becomes a crucial factor for kids below five to cry in outburst.

  • Since the toddlers have very little knowledge of words to express their urges, sometimes the mothers too are unable to understand what they want to convey.
  • This creates a frustration of failing to communicate and they start screaming and crying at the top of their voice.

Final control

  • Don’t lose your temper. Remember your child will become more arrogant in the later stage if you behave just as the kid is doing.
  • Never fulfill every demand of your kid. Try to calm him/her down by drawing the attention in some other direction. When they are little grown up, try to make them understand with justified reasons.
  • The best way is not to pay over attention when they are creating such a fuss. This is not ignoring them but giving them some time to recover on their own.
  • If they are still out of control, create a fun situation with some fantasy element that would instantly recreate the child’s mood.