Posted on September 6, 2007 in latest news
Kids like adults have urgent needs too. The needs may not seem so easy to comprehend. It may also seem unrealistic to you - but if you watch a kid get angry, you can bet that to him/her the urgent need was pretty darned important.
There are three primary reasons that kids get angry:
About Needs: Children are born totally helpless and depend upon us to attend to their every need: food, warmth, attention, comfort. If an infant gets hungry, he cries to alert us to handle it. As they grow and mature, their abilities to take care of their own needs become more elaborate, but you’ll still get complaints when their inexperience prevents them from full satisfaction.
At first kids seem to try simple notification with a cry or a yell. But when the problem is not handled or eliminated, just watch the rage erupt. Learn to identify their needs and you will understand them better.
About Frustration: Frustration is a normal part of life. Children are not always given what they want. This is done for their good so as to avoid them from falling in any trouble. This leads a child to get frustrated.However, when frustration is repeatedly a part of a child’s experience, he/she could get discouraged and begin to expect that things won’t work out - then watch out! Children who do not receive encouragement from their parents are likely to simmer in their frustration. And, those who do not learn how to handle their frustration are likely to develop a short-fuse toward anger outbursts.
About Anger: It is a important fact that a frequently “angry” child needs help. It is very essential to help the child discover effective ways to get his needs met. Understanding the development of angry children is an important first step toward creating a parenting plan to help them modify their anger responses or behaviors.
Every parent-child relationship is unique. The key to successful parenting is to know why your children do what they do or how their behavior serves them.
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